All get along comfortably, behind is a kind of kindness

Chi Li wrote a passage in the novel Green Water:

"everyone has a word for adjective person or thing at every stage."

at this stage of being a middle-aged person, one of the words I particularly appreciate for a person's affection is: comfort. "

when you get to a certain age, you will find that the highest charm of a person is not a beautiful face or amazing talent, but a spring breeze to get along with.

01

A few days ago, the variety show "fifty miles of Peach Blossom Wharf" was broadcast.

after watching an issue, I can't help feeling that Reality Show is like a mirror for adults to socialize.

the program invited 15 stars to join us. In order to get them to know each other quickly, Song Dandan suggested that everyone introduce themselves.

she lists three points to talk about in the introduction:

the first one is what I do.

the second one is what the works are.

the third is why you came to this program.

but when Zhang Han was introduced, he only said his name and occupation.

hearing such a simple introduction, Song Dandan was obviously dissatisfied and began to ask Zhang Han:

"what have you played?"

"it's impossible to come here without a name."

but Zhang Han did not want to talk about his work, but only replied:

is actually a disguised refusal of Song Dandan to let him talk about his work.

but Song Dandan is a very persistent person who keeps asking Zhang Han, which makes him very embarrassed.

others dare not answer the phone either.

just when the atmosphere dropped to the freezing point, Wang Su-Taki came out to the rescue.

when he saw that Zhang Han was unwilling to talk about his works, he said to Song Dandan:

Wang Su-Taki's words not only helped Zhang Han out of the siege, but also alleviated the embarrassing atmosphere at that time.

other guests present, including Song Dandan, were amused by him. When the guests behind

introduce themselves, they are obviously much more comfortable and comfortable.

Wang Su-Taki gained excellent popularity in the program with his warmth.

in life, everyone has awkward moments.

feel relaxed and happy with people who are comfortable with each other.

because they are gentle and delicate inside, once there is an awkward situation, they know how to rescue others in time.

people's hearts are mutual, leaving leeway for others is also saving their own character.

it is a kind of top wisdom to behave and make others comfortable.

02

with regard to communication between people, Zeng Guofan once put forward a principle:

among them, there is a kind of people who can be contacted: physical people.

Li Hongzhang, a famous minister of the late Qing Dynasty, once went to Nanjing to deal with official business and passed through his hometown Hefei to visit his mentor Xu Ziling.

as soon as he arrived at the door of Xufu, the doorman saw that Li Hongzhang was dressed in official clothes and immediately rushed to report.

Li Hongzhang called the doorman and told him not to rush to report whether he could borrow a suit of ordinary clothes.

people around me are confused. Li Hongzhang said:

"if I wear this official uniform to see my teacher and highlight my status as an official, it will certainly put pressure on the teacher, and even if I miss the old love, he will feel uncomfortable.

change into ordinary clothes, so that the teacher will feel relaxed and there will be no estrangement. "

Laozi has a saying:

anyone who makes people comfortable knows how to release his goodwill in silence.

does not want to make public, and happens to be warm.

when Qi Baishi traveled from Hunan to Beijing that year, it was difficult for him to gain popularity.

paintings can't be sold, and life is down and out.

Dress and appear sumptuous in our fashionable champagne dress with sleeves. Pick your best fashion and will stand the test of time.

once, a "high-ranking official" held a family dinner, and Qi Baishi was invited to paint a portrait of the host's family.

on the day he went to dinner, he sat alone in a corner, ignored, and began to regret that he should not have come in haste.

then Mei Lanfang came in.

when he saw Qi Baishi in the corner, he specially came forward to greet him, introduced Qi Baishi to everyone and praised his talent.

when the guests heard this, they all came forward to say hello, and Qi Baishi got rid of the predicament.

if you pay close attention to the people and things around you, you will find that

all get along well with each other, behind which there is a kind of kindness.

Plato said:

the sea of life, there is no one in the world without injury.

those kind-hearted people are often the most aware of the difficulties of others, and give gentleness and kindness to make you comfortable.

03

there is a passage on the Internet that is still fresh in my memory:

people who are comfortable are never easy.

in the fascinating offer2, which was a hit some time ago, there was an intern, Wang Kui, who was very unlikable when he appeared on the stage.

he is high achiever at Stanford. He is excellent, but he likes to show off and often shows off his identity as a famous school in front of his colleagues.

the cup used at work is printed with "Stanford Law School", even the lanyard around the neck.

the audience is a little disgusted to see such a superior person who shows off all the time.

the show is also a little awkward.

seeing this, sa Bing shouted:

his scene not only rounded up the interns in front of the audience, but also amused the people at the scene.

in Challenge impossible, sa Bei has a small detail that impresses me more.

A guest at the scene can distinguish the weight of fish by fish scales.

when it's over, he wants to shake hands with sa Benin.