Don't take everything too seriously! (epiphany)

the writer Oscar Wilde said:

when you don't get it, you get it, and then you get it, and then you get it and then you get it.

people are like this, cling to what they think in their hearts, but after a successful struggle, they fall into new desires.

what people fear most in this life is to pay too much attention to things outside the body and indulge in fearless desires.

all things are not the hearts of the people, and many things depend not on whether they get it or not, but on whether they can be put down.

sometimes you have to have it in your life, but don't force it all the time.

if you don't take everything too seriously, life will be more free and easy.

01

in the TV series "Jubilee Strategy", Queen Fucha asked Wei Liulu a question: "if you are good to a person, do you have to let him know?"

Wei Jiulu replied:

this is the only way to be fair and just. If you keep giving behind your back, no one knows how to cherish it. "

some people say that as long as I really give, one day, the other person will know that I am good.

but reality is never ideal: not all thoughts can be echoed, and not all sincere efforts can be equally rewarded.

most of the time, you give everything, and all you get is indifference.

once upon a time, two families lived next to each other. One of them is richer, while the other is poor.

A year coincides with the rainy season.

after months of heavy rain, there is no harvest in the fields. As a result, many farmers have lost their food, and poor families are one of them.

while the rich are unaffected by the rainy season because they hoard good food in advance.

seeing the plight of the neighbors, the rich kindly sent food to the neighbors to solve the problem of food and clothing.

when the poor received it, they were very grateful.

the host went to say thank you and complained to the rich man during the chat that next year's seeds had not yet been planted.

the rich man listened to this and said generously:

the poor are very happy and come home with a bucket of grain with great gratitude.

unexpectedly, the family looked at the grain and began to complain:

they have gone too far. They are really rich and unbenevolent. "

later, when these words reached the rich man, he thought angrily:

not only do you not know how to be grateful, but you treat me like an enemy. If you had known, you should not have given it away. "

the two families, who were originally friendly, formed a grudge against each other and did not communicate with each other.

in this world, not all efforts are rewarded.

Life will not be treated equally because of flattery, nor will it get the same reward for giving.

most of the time, we are not doing well, not because we have done too little, but because we have given too much.

Don't take others too seriously, don't flatter them too much, and don't let your heart give and become trampled on by others.

as the old saying goes, "when the moon is full, it loses; when the water is full, it overflows; when the flower is full, it declines, and when you love it, you are crazy." That's exactly what

says.

02

in ancient times, there was an outsider who loved purple sand teapot very much.

once, when a friend came to the house as a guest, he took out a purple sand teapot to entertain the guests.

as a result, he accidentally fell and the teapot was broken, leaving the lid intact.

looking at the broken purple sand teapot, the staff is very sad, often depressed, looking at the rest of the lid secretly sad.

when my friends heard this, they came to advise:

can the purple sand teapot be intact like this every day? "

the employee bowed his head and shook his head.

my friend continued: "in that case, why do you indulge in it?"

listening to this, the staff suddenly realized that the purple sand pot was broken, which is an unchangeable fact, so why should I care?

those who care about and like things, like this purple sand teapot, we can't force it, nor can we force it.

A lot of things are like this, you don't have to fight, it's not your reluctance.

blindly demanding, it will only make you more painful when you lose it.

Helen Keller once said:

in life, there is a certain amount of gain and loss.

Don't always try to catch what you can't get, don't try to pursue what you've lost.

there are some things, the tighter you grasp, the easier it is to feel pain and miss.

it's like sand in your hand. The tighter you hold it, the faster it flows. If you want the sand to stay in your hand, you have to loosen your hand properly.

Life, keep an open mind and treat every gain and loss of life calmly.

do not insist, do not cling to, give yourself the opportunity to face loss and feel life.

03

I have read a sentence:

Let nature take its course, be as free as a cloud, and be as free and easy as water is the proper attitude. "

when people live all their lives, there is no need to compete for everything, talk about right or wrong, don't take everything too seriously, learn to deal with the world calmly, take it easy and let it go.

because in this world, no one's life will always be plain sailing, everyone will have compromise to life, lack of things in the world.

what you give and what you regret are all gifts of life in the final analysis.

Life must have something, so why care too much about those who can't get it? let nature take its course and be willing to go with fate, which is the best arrangement for life.

actress Ren Jialun told the story of herself and her friends when she took part in the variety show "yearning for Life".

because of the particularity of her profession, Ren Jialun will meet a lot of like-minded people every time she joins the group to shoot a movie.

he always thought that these people would become good friends with him in the future, but whenever the crew disbanded, theyThe connection between them is gradually disappearing.

what is even more difficult for him to let go is that since his work began to be busy and he became famous, many of his friends who grew up with him have chosen to alienate him.

he Jing quietly listened to his confusion and said:

because we can't ask others what to do in the first place, we can only do what we have to do. "

Yes, every part of life, you will meet different people.

when we are together, we are sincere; when we are parting, we leave no regrets.

because when we come to this world alone, we always have to leave alone.

A lot of things don't have to be taken too seriously, and many people don't have to be too persistent.

the more demanding, the more counterproductive; the more concerned, the more counterproductive.

once read a sentence:

since it is life, love and hatred are inevitable, and we must always learn to accept everything calmly. "

Don't complain, don't struggle, learn to let go, let nature take its course, and live every day.

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if you want to have a smooth life, you must have a heart of "gain my luck, lose my life".

taking everything too seriously will only increase the weight of life and make life trapped in desire and unable to extricate itself.

only by learning to let go can life be easy, and only by learning to be indifferent can life be happy.

forget the past, let go of everything, be light and relieved, and live calmly.

just like a saying in Buddhist Zen:

find a leisure place, why be forced to worry. "

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