Beautiful morning light, accompany you to read.
as the saying goes, "not taking advantage is self-cultivation, while human contact is self-cultivation."
likes to take advantage of others because the pattern is narrow;
knowing reciprocity is the highest wisdom.
in dealing with people, what is revealed behind a person's way of doing things is cumulative self-cultivation.
not taking advantage is education
some time ago, there was a dispute between a man and a woman on a blind date, which caused a crowd of onlookers.
for this blind date, they arranged a dinner and opened four tables, which looked very ostentatious.
but at checkout time, the man ran away with oil on the soles of his feet.
the woman lashed out at the man on the Internet, but attracted ruthless ridicule from everyone.
the thing is, the two met for the first time, because it was agreed that it would be the man's treat, and the woman called 23 relatives in one breath.
at dinner, these relatives did not treat themselves as outsiders, chose the most expensive food, ordered a lot of high-priced tobacco and alcohol, and ate and drank.
after a meal, I unexpectedly ate 19800 yuan!
when the man checked out, he saw that the bill was dumbfounded and ran away.
afterwards, he contacted the woman and said he was willing to pay 4398 yuan for two tables, while the other tables would be borne by the woman.
the woman had no choice but to AA her relatives.
but relatives are not happy: "you asked us to go!"
some people say:
this farce seems absurd, but in real life, such examples are not uncommon.
some people always think about how to take advantage of others, but they end up cheating themselves.
it is said that greed is human nature, but one's greatest upbringing is to be able to think of others and not to take advantage of others.
I remember something my friend Nannan told me some time ago.
she went to work in Beijing alone, rented a house there, bet one for three, and spent a lot of money.
but a week after joining the job, she had to resign and go home because of a temporary family emergency.
in order to sublet the house as soon as possible, she is willing to charge less the current month's rent and only get back the deposit and two months' rent.
A colleague happened to want to change the house. After seeing the house, he decided to rent it.
Nannan offered to reduce the rent for the month, but her colleagues insisted on counting the remaining days and transferred the money to her.
my colleague said, "anyway, after you moved out, I moved in. I'll give you as much as I should. I can't take advantage of you."
Nannan felt very moved by the words of his colleagues.
in life, people who like to take advantage have an abacus in mind all the time.
and those simple and honest people always feel full of sincerity in their speech and demeanor.
I always believe that not taking advantage of others is a person's upbringing to the bone.
those who are kind are bound to be blessed.
Human contact is self-cultivation
it is often said that human contact is a very troublesome thing.
in fact, this just reflects one's self-cultivation.
there is a saying in the Book of Rites:
in the hit drama "Thirty" some time ago, a relationship between Gu Jia and Wang Manni became a good story.
Wang Manni, a salesman of a luxury store, was almost dismissed by the leader because of a misunderstanding. fortunately, Zhong Xiaoqin came forward to help her clarify.
since then, Wang Manni has been grateful to Zhong Xiaoqin.
later, Gu Jia wanted to buy a Herm è s bag, and Zhong Xiaoqin introduced them to know each other.
Wang Manni is very sincere. Although she owes Zhong Xiaoqin a favor, she also spares no effort to help Zhong Xiaoqin's friends.
even if we meet for the first time, we still treat each other as friends.
because the bag was hard to get, Wang Manni called her former colleagues and said nice things.
finally, my colleague finally agreed to give Gu Jia the bag that was supposed to be left to VIP customers.
when a colleague asked the bag buyer, Wang Manni blurted out, "it's not my guest, it's my friend."
Gu Jia is also very considerate. In addition to her bag, she also bought some other things at the same time, just to increase the performance of her colleagues and not to make it difficult for her.
in addition, she carefully told Marnie, "Don't worry, it's within my ability."
in this relationship, instead of taking advantage of each other, they put themselves in each other's shoes.
it is also because of this experience that the two have become sisters who talk about everything.
there is a saying in A Dream of Red Mansions: "the world is clear and learned, and human skill is an article."
Granny Liu is a person who knows human feelings in this work.
Grandma Liu's family was hungry and cold. In order to survive the winter, they had to go to Jia Fu, a distant relative, to borrow some money.
from winter to spring, when the melons and fruits are ripe in summer and autumn, Grandma Liu comes again, but this time she is not here to "fight the autumn wind", but to repay her kindness.
she carried two large bags full of melons, fruits and vegetables just picked from the ground.
Grandma Liu said, "give the girls and wives who usually have delicious delicacies a taste."
although she is an old woman in the countryside who can't read big characters, she can know the etiquette and human feelings so well. No wonder even Wang Xifeng has been moved.
later, the Jia mansion fell, and the trees fell apart, and only grandma Liu came forward without hesitation to rescue the daughter of Jia mansion in distress.
I have heard a saying:
in this world, no one owes us.And no one has the obligation to help us.
therefore, don't take other people's good for granted.
maybe the person who gives you a helping hand is not looking forward to your return.
but being able to repay kindness actively is one's real self-cultivation.
only by remembering the goodness of others can you warm your heart.
only by knowing reciprocity can a relationship last for a long time.
I have read such a story on the Internet, which is quite warm.
I remember that when we were young, our family would borrow 100 jin of flour from our neighbors.
when the wheat is beaten down and returned in time, it will be paid back 10 jin more each time.
Grandma always says that 100 jin is reasonable and 10 jin is love.
sometimes I wonder if I can borrow and repay as much as I can, and even if I don't pay more, the neighbors won't say anything.
but Grandma doesn't think so. She said, "you lend me an emergency and I'll give you a thank you gift. It's a rule to borrow less and pay more. This is reciprocity."
there is a good saying:
as I get older, I understand more and more that human kindness is a precious asset.
if you spend it blindly, you will inevitably end up with little left.
only by keeping it with your heart can our friendship last for a long time.
you know, there is never a good thing in the world that takes but does not give.
those who like to take advantage are bound to lose their character.
reciprocity is the oldest wisdom, but it is never out of date.
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