The best way to end a relationship

once heard a saying: "in this world, love seems to be the most untested thing." When it is strong, it can be overwhelming, but when it is fragile, it will break when it is touched. "

We all yearn for the affection of holding hands, but the reality is that there are too many feelings that are vulnerable to a single blow.

once vowed to fall in love with each other and last forever, we can't beat the erosion of time and the decline of time.

just like some people, they are only destined to be passers-by in our lives, and there is nothing we can do about it.

if a relationship can no longer continue, if a person can no longer have it, it is better to say goodbye.

cut off past ties in a decent way, to end all relationships, to let go of yourself, and to let others go.

from now on, you are you, I am me, and there is no more us.

01

wait for the response, let go

Zhang ailing said: "I think love can fill the regret of life." However, it is love that creates more regrets. "

Bing Bing, a good friend in college, has a deep feeling about this sentence.

in her heart, there is a person who has loved for ten years, but it is a pity that the man is already married.

they met on campus, but they were never together.

also because she is not together, it has become an eternal regret and pain in her heart.

later, he fell in love and got married, all of which Bing Bing saw in moments.

she came crying and asked me, "do you know what heartbreak is and what regret is?" That is, I read the news of his marriage in moments, but I was thinking about why I was not the one standing next to him. "

I don't know how to answer. I just remembered the sentence: "there are many stories of love in the world, and loss and regret are the normality of life."

Love is not as good as it seems, and there are only a few people who can get married in the end.

however, what we need to do is not to stay where we are, grieving ourselves with an unachievable regret.

but step over and move on. Maybe there will be new scenery and better people ahead.

as writer David Salinger wrote in the Catcher in the Rye: "remember what should be remembered, forget what should be forgotten, change what can be changed, and accept what cannot be changed."

since we can't change the established facts and can't wait for that person's response, we might as well let it go.

hide memories deep in your heart, do not touch, do not look back, not sad;

free up the whole heart, forget the wrong person, and leave it to the right person;

believe that every difficult result is the best outcome.

because the one who is waiting for us in front of us is the one who can work together for a lifetime.

the stars are still hot. Even if you miss the moon, you can find your own sun.

02

if you can't go on, let go.

many people think that couples who enter marriage because of love are mostly happy and lasting.

but in fact, love also has a shelf life.

in other words, love alone cannot stop all the changes in marriage.

what's more, love itself is not very reliable, it does not say once and for all.

No matter how vigorous you used to love and want to live or die, once your love fades, your marriage will be in jeopardy.

like Juanzi in the circle of friends, she finally accepted the fact that her husband no longer loved her and ended her two-year marriage.

she and her husband, or rather, ex-husbands, went to high school together.

they had been in love for eight years before they chose to get married.

it's just that what people didn't expect was that their relationship was not lost to a different place, not to cheating, but to the trivialities of marriage.

Juanzi likes to be quiet and likes to read and practice words, while his ex-husband likes to go out with his buddies on weekends.

these are minor problems when falling in love. But once in a marriage, all the shortcomings will be magnified into fatal problems.

Juanzi often accuses her ex-husband of ignoring his family and fooling around with his friends.

at first, my ex-husband apologized with a smile on his face and assured Juanzi that he would change.

but slowly, she became so impatient that she didn't even bother to answer her phone.

once he was pressed by Juanzi's phone, and he had a direct showdown: "I don't love you anymore. I took the time to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce formalities."

Juanzi has cried, made trouble, and begged, but she still can't get back a man who has changed his mind.

although the beginning of every love story is extremely gentle, the end of the story is often not so gentle.

since the person who agreed to accompany you for the rest of your life will get off in advance, even if we are reluctant to give up, we should wave goodbye and choose to put it down.

from now on, we will say goodbye to each other and be happy with each other, leaving an eyeful of stars to more worthy people.

03

A relationship that is too hard, forget it.

there is a line in the movie "in the mood for Love": I never thought marriage was so complicated. I thought it would be all right for one person to do it well, but it's not enough for two people to be together.

because marriage is a spiritual practice for two people, which requires the efforts and management of both parties.

relying on one person's hard work alone, such a marriage is powerless and even more desperate.

I have seen a piece of news:

A 24-year-old mother of two, who locked the door of her house after drinking, sat downOn the air conditioner outside the window, I wanted to jump off the building and commit suicide.

it turns out that she didn't want to have a second child, which was what her husband and mother-in-law wanted.

before giving birth, her husband promised to take care of the baby together, but after the birth, she was the only one who worked hard to take care of the baby day and night.

in order to take care of her two children, she quit her job and took care of the children besides housework every day.

on the other hand, her husband is more likely to be a shopkeeper, playing with his mobile phone under the pretext of talking about business, regardless of the crying children.

maybe she was extremely disappointed in the marriage, or maybe she gave up any hope for her husband, and she jumped off a building under the impulse of drunkenness.

fortunately, she was finally rescued, and her husband knelt down on the spot to admit her mistake, but she didn't want to put up with it any longer and insisted on divorce.

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you know, any relationship that feels hard is wrong.

in a marriage, if there is only one party's hard work and patience, then such a marriage is the wrong marriage.

while the wrong marriage brings us nothing but harm.

instead of consuming yourself in the wrong marriage, let yourself go and find a new world.

although we seldom have everything going well in life, we can at least give up what is wrong and hug the right person.

04

cartoonist Jimmy said, "Don't dwell on an awkward thing for too long." Entangled for a long time, you will be annoyed, painful, epiglottic, tired, hurt, and heartbroken. In fact, in the end, you don't have a problem with things, but with yourself. No matter how awkward it is, you have to learn to get out. "

if a relationship is doomed to come to an end, if there is no answer to a relationship, don't pester it, don't please it, don't be humble, choose to end bravely.

Let it go if you can't get a response, let go if you can't go on, and forget about a relationship that is too hard.

Life is long, and we always have to accept that some people pass by, some leave without saying goodbye, and some leave halfway.

the clouds gather and disperse, and fate comes and goes. Maybe this is also a kind of providence.

and we must firmly believe that all misses do not need to be reunited, and all ends are for perfection.