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there is an old saying in China:
in some families, children are dissatisfied with parental control, parents complain about their children's mischief, and even husband and wife quarrel endlessly, and brothers are divorced.
in fact, many problems lie in the relationship of family members.
A family with temperature and love has a comfortable way to get along.
elders have temperature
the real enrichment of children is to be nourished by love, and love is the answer to everything.
everyone knows that Lu Xun is a master in the literary world, but what few people know is that Lu Xun is still a loving father in life.
writer Xiao Hong wrote a little thing in remembering Mr. Lu Xun.
once, the family ordered a fish ball from a Fujian restaurant. Lu Xun's young son, Hai Ying, took a bite of the fish ball and said it was not fresh and had a strange taste.
but after the other people here ate the fish balls, they all thought that there was nothing wrong with the fish balls, and no one believed in Haiying, thinking that he was fooling around.
Lu Xun sandwiched the fish balls in the Haiying bowl, and when he tasted it, it really had a strange taste, but it was not fresh.
it turns out that some of the fish balls are fresh, some are not fresh, and the sea baby just ate something stale.
Mr. Lu Xun said to the crowd:
Lu Xun did not feel that he was being unreasonable because the child was young. on the contrary, he respected the child very much and stood in the child's shoes for his sake.
in fact, from childhood to age, Haiying is not a clever child, naughty by nature and often mischievous.
but no matter how naughty Haiying is, Lu Xun never spoke harshly against him.
every time Haiying makes a mistake, Lu Xun will calmly and patiently reason with him and never lose his temper.
in addition, Lu Xun often tells Haiying stories about how bears live and how turnips grow up.
he also compiled ballads for Haiying, comparing himself to a little white elephant and a little red elephant:
Little Elephant, Xiao Hong, Xiao Hong. Little Elephant, Little Red Elephant. Xiao Hong, Xiao Hong, Xiao Hong.
this ballad full of fatherly love has become a lullaby for Haiying before going to bed every night.
Lu Xun's real love for Haiying has become the strength to support Haiying's life.
after Lu Xun's death, his family was once in difficulty, but Haiying was not depressed and discouraged.
he signed up for an advanced course in Radio Night University, successfully admitted to the Physics Department of Peking University, and became a domestic expert in radio.
in a happy family, the elders must have a temperature.
they never miss the growth of their children, nor do they take care of their children's lives.
but respect the child's choice, let the child grow up in love, and learn to be independent, strong and kind.
the temperature of the elders determines the height of a child's life.
the life of a child who grows up in a loving family must not be much worse.
the younger generation has rules
there is a sentence in "Yan's Family motto":
A family should have both warmth and rules.
Love and rules go hand in hand, which is the best way for a family to get along.
I believe everyone is very impressed by Chi Chongrui, the actor who plays the Tang monk in the 84 version of Journey to the West.
Chi Chongrui lives in a very disciplined family, and he once revealed in an interview that the younger generation in his family are very disciplined.
three generations of Chi Chongrui's family live together.
the family is still in the habit of having dinner together. Three generations eat together. If the elders are not seated, the younger generation will have to wait.
after the elders sit down and move their chopsticks, the younger generation can pick up chopsticks for dinner.
when the elders have a good meal, the younger generation should get up, send the elder to sit down on the sofa, and then return to the dinner table to continue eating.
when the elder speaks, the younger generation also stands and listens, unless the elder asks them to sit down.
the younger generation is always respectful in front of the elders.
the cultivation of this kind of rule fills every child with kindness and humility.
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they don't have any sense of superiority, and they never show off their family background.
Chi Chongrui's relationship with the younger generation reminds me of the way Guo Qilin and his father Guo Degang get along.
at home, Guo Qilin is always well-behaved in front of Guo Degang, never crossing his legs or saying a dirty word.
while Guo Degang was sitting, Guo Qilin stood beside him respectfully, waiting for his father's orders at any time.
when you call or answer the phone, you must stand, not sit.
the whole family sits around for dinner, the elders don't move, the children can't move, the elders sit in the middle, and others sit in turn.
when entering the elder's door, tap first and then knock twice in a row.
Guo Degang once said:
the attitude of children towards their parents reveals their upbringing as well as their parents' tutoring.
only parents with strict tutoring can teach educated children.
Children have rules in their hearts, respect their parents from the bottom of their heart, and respect others only when they are outside.
so now Guo Qilin has a very good reputation in show business, and he doesn't look like a "rich second generation" at all.
A family has rules, which is the best style of a family.
the younger generation
Zhou Guoping said:
the closer the family members are, the more they need to pay attention to discretion.
I have seen a program before, in which a couple have a sense of division.Missing, confrontation stage.
the husband complains that his wife arranges his life in every detail and takes care of everything.
what brand and color of clothes to wear must be chosen by the wife herself;
the wife should also interfere with what work to do, who to associate with, and what interests she has.
you have to go out with your wife's consent, and you are not allowed to go home after 11:00 at night.
the husband broke down and said that his wife's control made him almost out of breath and felt that he had become a robot and had no freedom.
but the wife's face is full of grievances:
"isn't it because I love you too much and care about you?" I'm taking care of you, too. "
some people say:
"Life is like a ruler, you must have a degree." Feelings, such as noodles, do not cross the line. "
No matter how close the relationship is, you should leave some space for each other.