The bigger the pattern, the more indifferent it is. (good text in depth)

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ignore

save time and energy

Zeng Guofan shared a dormitory when he was studying at Yuelu Academy in Changsha.

the desk in the dormitory is several feet away from the window. In order to facilitate reading, Zeng Guofan moved the desk to the window.

after seeing this, the roommate was very angry and said:

Zeng Guofan did not argue with him, but kindly asked him:

roommate pointed to the bedside:

Zeng Guofan smiled and let it go according to his opinion.

in the evening, Zeng Guofan studied hard, and the roommate said:

Zeng Guofan changed his reading to silent reading.

soon, Zeng Guofan won the exam.

the roommate was even more jealous when he heard this, saying:

all the classmates thought this man was vexatious and made grievances for Zeng Guofan.

Zeng Guofan didn't take it to heart at all, as if he didn't hear it.

later, he mentioned this in his diary and wrote only at the end: "only by maintaining peace of mind and self-cultivation can great things be achieved."

there is a question on Zhihu:

there is an answer:

"it's like walking into a maze to chase the enemy. You want to defeat the enemy, but you trap yourself."

do you have this experience:

some people always have nothing to find trouble with, make trouble for nothing, and always deliberately trouble you.

for this, you feel very angry and aggrieved, and you really want to argue about right or wrong.

but in the end, even if you win, you waste a lot of time and energy.

in fact, the smarter the person is, the more indifferent he is.

there is a saying:

"the general has a sword and does not kill flies."

instead of arguing with the villain, it is better to ignore it, so that he can gradually leave you in his own boredom.

instead of fighting with villains, it is better to ignore them and devote more effort and energy to important people and things.

02

ignore

is to stop loss in time

in life, we always meet some troublemakers.

sometimes, just because we don't argue with them doesn't mean we're weak and don't want to affect our emotions.

sometimes, just because we don't struggle with them doesn't mean we throw in the towel. We don't want to just add to our troubles.

sometimes, just because we don't argue with them doesn't mean we don't have a temper. We don't want to worry about it.

when Lu Meng, prime minister of the Northern Song Dynasty, first took office, many people did not accept him, and some people said behind his back:

once Lu Meng happened to have heard him, but Lu Meng pretended not to hear him and went straight past.

the officials traveling with him complained for him and were ready to give a breath to Lu Meng, but he was stopped by Lv Meng.

"Don't worry about it. If I know his name this time, I'll keep thinking about him. It's not necessary."

there are many moments when we don't seem to embarrass others, but we don't embarrass ourselves.

seems to let others go, but in fact it is also letting go of yourself.

A primary school apprentice went out to pick up the goods and was bitten by a dog on the way back.

after taking care of the wound, he found a long bamboo pole and was ready to hit the dog.

when the master saw this, he came and asked:

the primary school apprentice said it was no longer painful.

"Why hit the dog when it doesn't hurt anymore?"

"because it bit me, I want to give it some color to see see!"

the master said:

the primary school apprentice froze and looked at the master blankly.

the master smiled and said:

Bring out a sense of grace with our little children gowns for weddings. You'll be pleased with your sophisticated look.

the primary school apprentice had an epiphany after hearing this.

there is a saying in Caigen Tan:

"the heart of a gentleman begins to appear when things come, and when things go, the heart goes empty."

in fact, we don't have to worry about it when we are faced with malicious ridicule, criticism, or even being entangled by bad things.

once you fight, you will only kill a thousand enemies and lose 800. Only when you know how to stop your losses in time can you save yourself and try not to consume yourself.

03

ignore

is to think in the long run

there is an old saying:

A truly wise person knows how to think in the long run.

for the sake of temporary pleasure and anger, we must not lose the big because of the small, and the loss outweighs the gain.

in 201BC, Liu Bang, the great ancestor of the Han Dynasty, defeated Xiang Yu and unified the world.

one day, Han Gaozu saw those unrewarded generals sitting in groups on the sand, looking secretive and whispering.

he couldn't help getting suspicious and asked his counselor Zhang Liang what was going on.

Zhang Liang said:

Liu Bang was shocked. Today, you are the son of Heaven, all those who are trusted and deceased, and those who are revenged in your life.

they are worried that because you have no land to divide, you will have to get together to discuss countermeasures by means of investigating their previous faults.

the only way out is of course rebellion. "