Beautiful morning light, accompany you to read.
Jobs once said:
habits determine our character. And character determines our destiny.
good habits make a man. Bad habits can also destroy a person.
it is never some major principles that change life, but some humble little habits. Uncle Fan feels that if he learns to develop these four habits for the rest of his life, the second half of his life will be more leisurely and powerful.
learn to be tolerant. As the old saying goes, "to be tolerant to others is to be kind to yourself." Learn to look at everything with a normal mind, and don't always have ups and downs. There is a famous psychological story: a narrow-minded fruit store owner, very angry.
one day, the boss scolded the employee for a little thing. The employee was very angry and went home to quarrel with his wife.
the cat, which had not been provoked by anyone, was suddenly frightened and ran into the road. A car came along, and the driver quickly avoided it, but hit the fruit stall and hurt the owner of the fruit store. Originally is the boss's bad mood, seems to vent out, but the error has become a vicious circle, and finally put it on his own head. If the boss knew at that time that to forgive others is to let go of himself, then trouble would not have been found in the first place.
tolerance is not only a habit, but also a realm. People who care about things always feel resentful and unfair, and unhappiness will break out at any time. When you learn to be lenient to others, you feel that everything can be tolerated and your mind is open.
always pay attention to health and cherish your body
there is a question on Zhihu: what is the most important thing when you reach middle age?
A highly praised answer, just two words.
I remember reading such a news that a 27-year-old mother of her second child in Zhejiang died of overwork.
looking back on her living habits, I found that it had already become a vicious circle.
because I have to stay up late to take care of the baby, I get less than 5 hours of sleep a day. The children are so noisy that they can't have a mouthful of hot food, so they can only have some cold food left over. I am too busy to exercise, so my physical fitness is getting worse and worse.
coupled with a long period of insomnia, she can only rely on playing with her cell phone to relieve.
she put her children first, her family second, but her health last. In the end, tragedy happened.
there are many such examples around.
Don't expose your money, it's like paper in the hospital.
Don't share your work. If you fall down, someone will do it better than you.
the only thing you can show off is your health. When everyone else is gone, you can enjoy a healthy life in the sun.
"the gift given by fate has already marked the price secretly."
excessive consumption is doomed to be punished.
only by taking care of your body can you enjoy the rest of your life.
know how to stop losses in time
from small to big, we have always believed that persistence is victory. But in fact, sometimes, the right choice is far more important than blind persistence. Lin Yutang once said, "it is better to give up wisely than to stick to it blindly."
Sister Ma, my neighbor, told me her own story.
when I was 28 years old, my family introduced a man, a talented man and a gentle man. The two families are the same, and they get along well with each other. After getting along for half a year, they have reached the point of talking about marriage.
Sister Ma decided at that time that she must not marry him.
after the man woke up, he knelt down and apologized to Sister Ma, and her friends all advised her that it was hard for a man to find such a good partner on the spur of the moment.
sure enough, the man's domestic violence was no accident. I heard that he punched and kicked his current wife after he got married. And Sister Ma has already found the right person.
I often hear the words
"how can you break up after knowing each other for so long?"
"all married, just be patient."
it is precisely because we are always afraid of losing that our unwilling efforts are wasted and wasted in the end.
not knowing how to stop loss in time is like gambling. If you lose a car, you always feel that you will win back an apartment. If he loses an apartment, he always thinks he will win back millions.
at the end of the day, we all know that casinos have no winners and it is common to lose everything.
Yakos said: "90% of the misfortunes in our lives are caused by unwillingness."
whether it is a good relationship or money, we should learn to stop the loss in time, have the faith to stick it out, and have the courage to break the wrist.
know how to cherish the people around you
once read such a short story:
because she had no money and was cold and hungry in the street, the noodle shop owner cooked her a bowl of noodles for free.
the boss smiled and said that I was just cooking a bowl of noodles for you, you are grateful, but your mother has cooked for you for so many years, but you only remember her scolding you?
although the world is big, no one takes it for granted that no one is kind to you. Even parents should know how to be grateful, and those who are not parents should cherish them even more.
have read such a sentence:
I am good to you, not because you are good, but because I am good.
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I treat you well, not because you are good, but because I want you to treat me in the same way.
my friend Xiao Lin said that he had met such an intern colleague. Xiao Lin feels that he is also from an intern, and it is not easy for two people to cherish each other, so they get closer and closer. Anyone who takes an inch will come to an abrupt end.
remember beforeA very popular passage:
habit becomes natural.
in fact, those who live thoroughly and lead a leisurely life do not have good habits because of excellence. It is because they have the habit that they become excellent. From now on, take the first step!
make a little progress every day, it is inevitable to embrace happiness. For the rest of our lives, may we all form good habits and achieve better lives.