The root of one's pain: too many desires

have seen such a picture:

We often think that the misfortune of life stems from material poverty, but in fact most of our troubles have nothing to do with rich or poor.

there is a saying in Zengguang Xianwen: a thousand hectares of fertile land is but three meals a day, and ten thousand rooms in Guangsha only sleeps three feet.

the so-called ideal life is not having much, but wanting very little.

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Professor Chen Xiaoye of the Academy of traditional Chinese Medicine once had a point of view: desire-strength = anger.

when a person's ability can not support his desire, he will feel anxious and irritable, and heart disease will follow.

in 1996, Feng Lun, a famous investor, experienced some twists and turns in his career and owed a lot of money.

A friend saw that he was under a lot of pressure, so he took him to see a monk.

the Taoist asked him, what are you worried about?

he said business.

the prefect said, I don't understand this business either, but I can give you one word, that is, "cover".

after reading it, Feng Lun was a little puzzled and asked what the Taoist meant.

the preacher said, "all your troubles and pains at present mainly come from asking for too much." If you can't cover it, you will worry. The palm of your hand cannot be changed. It is so big that the only thing that can change is to reduce things. "

Feng Lun suddenly realized that after he went back to do self-review, he began to cut off some unnecessary things and cut some unimportant items.

unexpectedly, the company's revenue not only did not decline because of the reduction in business volume, but also increased a lot.

Feng Lun could not help feeling: "the management of desire has become a very important thing in the development of my career. I will always let my career, my desire and the palm of my hand cooperate. No matter how fast or slow I go, I will not worry."

Laozi said, "there is no greater misfortune than discontentment, and no greater guilt than desire."

Life has no troubles. When you want more than you can, your desires are hard to fill, and troubles grow.

there is no pain in life. Pain occurs when you crave more than you can ask for and miss what you can't get.

the greatest sorrow in life is to chase infinite desires with limited energy, thus missing out on the most precious things in life.

only by giving up the disturbing obsession, searching inward, and getting rid of turnips, can we get a simple job and get a share of contentment.

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there is a famous storyteller who once told a story.

in 2002, he bought his first apartment in Beijing. after buying it, he was probably happy for a few days, and regretfully thought, if only he could buy a bigger one in one step.

later, he bought a house of more than 300 square meters, because he bought a house with a lot of debt, which made him feel even more unhappy.

when he finally paid off his debt, he should have felt relaxed, but soon he went to buy a bigger house.

now he finally lives in the biggest house, but he doesn't feel happier because of it. on the contrary, he often quarrels with the property, quarrels with the gardeners, and is unhappy.

When in inexpensive wedding gowns with sleeves your look is magnificent and glamorous. All our available fashions are pocket-friendly.

cartoonist Zhu Deyong once said:

in economics, there is a principle of "diminishing marginal utility".

when you are thirsty, give you a glass of water and you feel 10 points of happiness.

when you have another drink, you can get 8 points of happiness.

when you drink until the sixth cup, you will not only be unhappy, but also feel worse.

A person's desire is like such a glass of water.

maybe we just wanted to have a house and a home in one city.

when we got what we wanted, we didn't feel satisfied, but wanted a room with a larger area, a better location and a more beautiful environment.

you think life makes you physically and mentally exhausted and there is no way out, but it is desire that makes you live more and more tired and sink deeper and deeper.

many moments, happiness is just an inner feeling.

when you feel happy, it doesn't matter how bad the conditions are.

when you feel unhappy, it doesn't matter how good the conditions are.

learn to simplify your desires and be content so that you can move forward light.

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Thoreau once said:

there are very few necessities for a person to survive.

too many desires cannot fill the inner emptiness, but contentment can mend the loopholes in the heart.

writer Cai Lan once traveled in the Indian Mountains and said to the old lady who cooked chicken for him all day, "I don't want chicken, I want fish!"

the wife said, "what is a fish?"

Cai Lan thought that the old lady had lived in the mountains all her life and might not have seen fish, so she drew a fish with paper and said, "it's a pity you haven't eaten it."

the old lady looked at him and said, "Sir, what's the pity if you haven't eaten?"

Yes, in this world, there are too many things you haven't eaten, too much scenery you've never seen, too much life you haven't enjoyed, and too much.

the essence of life is not to pursue better material desires, but to enjoy the present and cherish what is present.

one day, several students encouraged Socrates to go for a stroll in the lively market.

they said:

"there are a lot of things in the bazaar, there are many beautiful things, beautiful things and fun things, and there are countless new things.

clothing, food, housing and transportation are all available. If you go, you will come back with a full load! "

he thought about it, agreed to the student's suggestion, and decided to have a look.

the next day, Socrates I.When he entered the class, the students immediately gathered around and enthusiastically asked him to talk about the fruits of his fair trip.

he looked at everyone, paused and said:

when you feel like you have nothing, maybe you just want too much.

Real poverty is not a hole in clothes, but a bottomless hole in the heart.

as Zhou Guoping said:

"as long as a person is willing to restrain his desires and be satisfied with a relatively simple life, the territory of life will be wider."

Aristotle once said, "A slave is a man whose desire prevails over reason."

A man's life is not for desire, but for happiness.

reduce unnecessary extravagant expectations, please yourself, and be true to your heart so that you can live freely and freely.