Beautiful morning light, accompany you to read.
in life, some people like to make things difficult for others, and they end up having a hard time for themselves.
there is a good saying: the weak fight against each other, and the strong give way to each other.
if you do anything against others, you will only lower yourself.
knowing how to make concessions is a person's top wisdom.
the weak compete with each other, and both sides lose
some time ago, I saw such a piece of news.
in front of a shopping mall in Chongqing, a delivery boy was embarrassed by a security guard.
the takeout boy rode the electric car to the mall, but the electric car was locked by the security guard when he left for dinner.
when the takeout boy came back and found out, he found a way to open the lock by himself. When he was about to leave, several security guards came forward and grabbed his keys.
they tossed the keys to each other and refused to return them, deliberately teasing the takeout boy.
in the face of such a scene, the little brother has been trying to hold back his anger and try to communicate with each other.
but several security guards were arrogant and even made personal attacks on the younger brother: "what are you?"
according to people familiar with the matter, all the entrances around the mall are open, and there is no obvious sign that electric cars are not allowed to enter the mall.
in the comment section of the news, netizens criticized the security guard: "they are just bullying with a little bit of power."
more people say with emotion: "Why should they embarrass each other if they are both migrant workers?"
have you found such a phenomenon in your life?
the more incompetent the weak is, the more he likes to make things difficult for others.
when I was criticized by the leader for making mistakes in my work, I turned around and scolded the delivery man in the face.
I got a little frustrated with my friends, and when I got home, I vented all my anger on my wife and children.
when I was in a bad mood, I complained about the restaurant waiter and the security guard in the neighborhood.
Mo Yan wrote in the late maturity:
sometimes, the malice from the weak is the most terrible.
they like to refresh their sense of existence by making it difficult for others; they like to trample on other people's dignity and show off their nobility.
but forget that the weak are doomed to lose both sides.
all the difficulties to others will eventually come back to you.
the strong give in to each other
Last year, there was an expensive traffic accident in Beijing, in which two Rolls-Royce crashed. The prices of these two cars add up to more than 10 million.
two luxury cars collided, which is a big loss anyway.
as ordinary people, they may immediately shirk the responsibility, thinking that the owner of the other car is fully responsible, and they may even have a big fight on the road.
I didn't expect that the two car owners had a very good attitude after getting off the bus. Instead of blaming each other, they first handed each other cigarettes, and then exchanged business cards.
some people say:
what the two car owners do, people can't help but like it.
their time is so expensive that they don't want to waste it on meaningless things.
they are far-sighted and know that to leave a way for others is to build a bridge for themselves.
I have heard a saying:
"all domineering and bluff is a sign of inner weakness;
the really strong can produce a kind of compassionate tenderness from the bottom of their hearts."
knowing how to make concessions is the top smart
have you ever had the same experience?
fight openly and secretly with the people around you, competing silently, but in the end it is difficult for others and exhausts yourself.
on the contrary, when you learn to give in to everything, you will eventually gain good popularity.
I remember reading such a story on the Internet.
many years ago, in a busy street in the capital, there were two cobblers, old and young, with excellent craftsmanship.
but because of the limited space, the two had to huddle together in front of a slap-sized booth, waiting for business to come.
at first, people who went to mend shoes thought they were father and son, thinking that they were a family anyway, and it was the same for anyone to earn money.
later I learned that they didn't know each other at all, so when they went to mend their shoes, they were a little embarrassed.
give the shoes to the young man. The old man's pitiful eyes are unbearable.
Let the old man mend it, and the young man will keep sighing and saying to himself, only when you earn money can you hurry back to your hometown to marry a wife.
watching them compete in secret, customers do not want to offend people, so they would rather walk a little more to find another cobbler.
over time, the business between the two became very deserted.
one morning, the young man was surprised to find that the old man did not come out of the stall.
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at noon, the old man came slowly, but he came empty-handed.
the young man was puzzled. The old man smiled and asked him, "is business better if you set up a stall here alone?"
the young man nodded shyly.
the old man sighed and said,
"in the past, the two of us competed for customers, but instead of increasing, the number of customers was lost.
after that, we might as well take turns to get out of the stall.The sample not only avoids competition, but also does not cause psychological pressure on customers. "
the young people agreed, and it wasn't long before their business began to improve.
in this world, not everything has to compete with each other. Sometimes timely concessions are also a win-win situation.
I have heard a saying: people are always mutual.
if you tear down the platform for others, they will add traffic to you; if you set up a stage for others, they will make way for you. Instead of making things difficult for each other, it is better to do it for each other.
if you can't understand each other, at least don't embarrass each other.
to be convenient to others is to be convenient to yourself; to let others go is to let yourself go.