There is a kind of maturity called no explanation.

There is a kind of maturity called no explanation.

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Mr. Li ao once said:

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"sometimes an explanation is unnecessary. Enemies do not believe your explanation, but friends do not need your explanation."

those who understand you know what's on your mind without saying much, while those who don't understand you are full of disagreements.

sometimes, instead of wasting time trying to explain, try to be yourself.

unexplained is the smartest way to live in life.

01

there are some words, no matter not listening to

Su Shi said:

in the journey of life, everyone is destined to move forward alone in his own life.

in many cases, there is no empathy between people, and what you insist on, love, and choose may not be understood by others.

Zhang ailing is a famous "money buff". She once said:

"I don't know the disadvantages of money, but only the advantages of money."

"money is money, and you can buy all kinds of things I want."

even most of her characters are money aficionados. Cao Qiqiao sacrificed the happiness of his children for money, and Bai tassel did not hesitate to rob her seventh sister's rich blind date for money.

many people criticized her for worshipping money, and even felt that she had lost her reputation as "treating money like dirt" by intellectuals.

as always, she neither explained nor disguised it, saying bluntly:

"as soon as I learned the term 'money worship', I insisted that I was a money worshiper."

if you dig deeper, it is not difficult to find out why she is so.

although Zhang ailing comes from a rich family, unfortunately her father is profligate and indulges in the place of wind and moon all day long.

over time, the family was in decline, and the family had to make a living by selling things, so she felt aggrieved that she had no money.

once, she stood humbly in front of the cigarette shop in order to ask her father for some money for piano lessons, but her father did not reply to her for a long time.

the experience of lack of money since childhood has made her attach great importance to money, but she would rather bear the notoriety than babble on about her pain and grievances to the world.

those who know me say I am worried, and those who do not know me say what I want.

things are cold and human feelings are cold and warm. If you don't stick the needle on yourself, it will be difficult for others to empathize with you at all.

as Haruki Murakami said:

"there is sorrow that cannot shed tears, which cannot be explained to others."

even if it is explained, people will ignore it. "

the sweetness of wine is known to those who have drunk it, and the pain of medicine to those who have taken it.

there are thousands of words in Tao, but you may not have a bosom friend who understands you.

look down on those unpleasant things, ignore those who criticize you, bear it silently and build up your strength.

because no one can understand the situation you face.

02

some people ignore

as the saying goes:

those who stand at the foot of the mountain will never understand how shocking the scenery at the top of the mountain is; those who live by the Ganju River do not understand how rough the waves of the sea are after all. The levels of

are different and there is no need to explain.

there is such a story:

A famous chess player was studying the chess game in his yard when suddenly a strange guest came to visit him.

when the guest saw him, he said jokingly:

"I heard that you know most about go in the world. Do you know how many pieces there are in the chess box?"

the chess player smelled the words and smiled:

"181 sunspots, 180 albinos, a total of 361."

after hearing this, the guest laughed and immediately retorted:

with that, he quietly took out a piece he had just taken from the chessboard when the chess player wasn't paying attention.

the chess player's students know that the guests are looking for trouble, so they can't help arguing with the guests.

the chess player saw this, but asked the student to stand down and apologized to the man one after another:

the guest showed off:

so he left chic.

the student was very angry, so he asked the chess player:

the chess player patiently explained:

as the saying goes, they often compete with others, but do not share fools' short points.

people will meet all kinds of people in their lifetime.

differences in cognition, knowledge and pattern will inevitably lead to differences in views and opinions.

when some people are still standing still, talking about all kinds of gossip, there are some people's eyes, but looking forward to the sea of stars.

if the heart is motionless, what can the wind do; the rest of life is expensive, so why waste it.

you know that not everyone in the world can stand at the same height as you. It is wise to say what you have to say to those who can understand it.

03

there are some things that are fair

Mr. Nan Huaijin said:

"there is nothing wrong with being criticized in the world. If you take other people's talk too seriously, you won't survive that day. "

whoever does not talk behind his back, no one says behind his back.

No matter whether it is an argument or an explanation, it is in the hearts of the people whether it is right or wrong.

I have read such a story:

there is a young girl who is unmarried and pregnant, but the biological father of the child is missing.

the parents asked questions several times, but the girl had no choice but to make up that the child's father was an eminent monk in a nearby temple.

so the parents angrily took their children to the eminent monk and asked the eminent monk to take responsibility.

when the eminent monk learned of this, he said "this is the way" and silently took over the child.

when the people in the town learned of this, they abused the eminent monk one after another, and some even approached him.Throwing eggs, hoping to drive him out of town.

but the eminent monk is unmoved and pays attention to raising his children every day.

it was not until half a year later, when the child's biological father came to the door, that the girl admitted that she had wronged the eminent monk.

after revealing the truth, people in the town came to apologize to the eminent monk.