Those who help you do not owe you; let your people not be afraid of you! (so right.)

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it is the duty of not to help.

A person must learn three skills in his life: the eye learns to do things, the mouth learns to be a man, and the ear learns to learn oneself.

there is nothing wrong with helping others, but not everyone is worthy of our kindness.

on Weibo, the refusal of a well-known lawyer to change shops on a train has sparked a lot of heated discussion.

the lawyer sent the two children to school and bought two train tickets for the upper berth.

after getting on the bus, he began to talk to someone about changing the lower berth.

the first boy hesitated to say yes, but later said that he had hurt his leg, so he refused to change.

the second boy refused without hesitation.

finally, it was two girls who changed the lower bunk for him and did not ask to make up the difference.

afterwards, the Weibo lawyer, who has nearly 2 million followers, wrote down the experience:

his words seemed innocent and magnanimous, but between the lines he blamed and cursed the two boys who did not want to change shops:

"as for those two boys, you did the right thing.

it's just that one day, you will also be fathers, and sometimes you will show up with your children.

I hope you won't meet who you were, but girls who are willing to help others. "

A topic was specially added at the end of the article, meaning that # girls are more kind than boys.

I didn't expect that as soon as the article "Train changing feeling" was released, netizens agreed that diss:

every school season, it is difficult to get tickets for the lower berth of the train.

therefore, in order to buy a lower berth ticket, many people are either extremely lucky or open various kinds of members to speed up the robbery.

the lawyer, with two children, happened to buy two upper berths and felt that it was only natural to find someone to change the lower berth.

how can you swagger the hard-won lower bunk by saying, "I'm taking the kids, it's not convenient"?

when others help, they are kind-hearted and kind-hearted, while being rejected is bad-hearted and vicious.

such an attitude towards others and self-discipline is enough to reflect a person's self-cultivation and conduct.

in real life, the situation of "moral kidnapping" is happening every day:

female colleagues often rub cars, and one day the car owner is inconvenient, not only ungrateful but also ridiculed, "taking your car is to give you face." I've never seen such a stingy person before.

it's inconvenient for girls on the bus to give up their seats during their menstrual period. I met my uncle one by one, "I don't know how to respect the old and love the young."

which child in the village is promising and does not donate money or benefit his hometown is "wasting resources and making a long face for his hometown";

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there is a saying in Zengguang Xianwen: "be strict with yourself and be lenient to others."

morality is used to restrain oneself, not to regulate people.

it is undoubtedly the greatest immorality to take advantage of others in the first place and kidnap others for their own benefit.

in this world, not everyone owes you. It is the duty of others to help you. It is the duty not to help you. Don't take everything for granted.

there is a joke on the Internet that says very clearly:

you are a prince at home and I am a princess at home.

your parents will reach for the moon for you, and my family will catch soft-shelled turtles for me.

but society is not your parents, it will not spoil you.

Man is a man, so he doesn't have to be a man deliberately; the world is the world, and there is no need to deal with it meticulously.

be yourself. Don't do to others what you don't want.

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give in only when you cherish it.

A sign of a person's maturity is to stop arguing with his relatives and friends about the so-called length and to win or lose.

at any time, they are extremely gentle and accommodating to the inside; they are calm and calm to the outside, and do not argue or shout.

because we cherish it, we make concessions; because we value it, we compromise. Zuo Zongtang, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, liked to play go very much, and he was so skilled that he had few opponents.

once when he went on a micro-suit tour, he saw an old man with a chess array next to the sign of "the number one chess player in the world".

Zuo Zongtang was not convinced, so he immediately went to play chess with the old man. He did not expect that the old man would lose all three games.

Zuo Zongtang left with confidence and cheerfulness.

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before long, Zuo Zongtang returned to Korea and passed by again, so he played chess with the old man again.

but this time Zuo Zongtang unexpectedly lost three games and was beaten up by the old man.

Zuo Zongtang was greatly surprised. The old man smiled and replied:

No one in this world is stupid. People who choose to make concessions and are willing to compromise are all because they take each other seriously.

if they can win, they do not have to win, they have the character of humility to give way to others; they can win but not necessarily win, and they have the mind to take a step back.

there is always someone around you who is willing to give in to you, take care of your feelings and tolerate your temper.

he may be your parents, your friend, or your lover.

parents tolerate you, because as long as they live, you are still a child;

your lover tolerates you because you are afraid of winning a quarrel and losing your feelings;

your friends tolerate you because you don't want to win the argument and lose the friendship.

whoever it is, don't take other people's kindness to you for granted, and don't take other people's patience as weakness. You have to understand that everyone in this world has selfishness, and no one is willing to wronge himself to bow to another person.

make your people not afraid of you, because they value the relationship and cherish it, so they would rather play the loser than defeat the one they love.

imagine who doesn't have any grievances outside. He also has a lot of reasons to argue, but compared with the one he loves, it's no big deal to throw in the towel.

03

the greatest evil of human nature is that he does not know how to be grateful.

the highest unfathomable is the human heart, and the most insatiable is also the human heart.

after "Big clothes" Zhu Zhiwen became famous, he built roads for his hometown and renovated the kindergarten. Some local villagers refused to forgive him and asked him to buy a car for each person in the village, plus 10,000 yuan.

people who are ungrateful only know how to take endlessly and don't know anything in return. no matter how much you give, they still feel that you owe him.

born as a human being, it is everyone's conscience and character to be grateful.

you don't have to return the favor by dripping water, but don't forget those who have helped you, taught you, and accompanied you.

because people are mutual, if you are kind to others, others will be kind to you.

the deep friendship between Zeng Guofan and his teacher Mu Zhanga is still talked about by future generations.

Zeng Guofan went to Beijing to take the exam when he was young, and Mu Zhanga, who was in a high position, appreciated him very much and brought him under his own door.

in this way, Zeng Guofan, who had no background, relied on Muzhanga's guidance and recommendation, as well as his own integrity, incorruptibility, and moral character, which was deeply used by the Daoguang emperor and was continuously promoted within ten years.

later, Muzhanga lost power, and many people were anxious to make a clean break with him, but Zeng Guofan thanked him for his kindness and often went to visit.

even after Muzhanga's death for many years, Zeng Guofan never forgot his old love, often helped his descendants, and even offered to help renovate the Mu family's old house. Because of his extraordinary bearing and breadth of mind, Zeng Guofan was excellent enough in his life of self-cultivation, family unity, governing the country and pacifying the world.

along the way of life, it is good to have help. Be grateful for all the favors, no matter how big or small they are.

as the saying goes, "never forget the road when happiness comes, and never forget the man who dug the well when you draw water."

people who know how to repay their gratitude will get more and more help, and the road of life will become brighter and brighter.

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