Good morning, accompany you to read.
as the saying goes, "if you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer."
the elderly have experienced frivolity in youth, struggled in middle age, and precipitated to the age of antiquity. Whether it is experience or mental understanding, it is often tested by time and practice.
words that can be handed down from generation to generation are even more classic and thought-provoking.
these three old sayings are instantly awakened and shared with you:
the bigger the temper, the worse the temper.
the deeper the reward
the Huangdi Nei Jing says: "like to be sad, anger hurts the liver, worry hurts the lung, thinking hurts the spleen, fear hurts the kidney."
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people's emotions will hurt their own organs if they go too far.
for example, Fan Jin in the Outer History of the Scholars was overjoyed and led to mental disorder. Lin Daiyu in A Dream of Red Mansions was so sad that she hurt her lungs and died early.
World Health Organization (WHO) pointed out that emotion is an alarm signal of the body. On the other hand, more than 70% of people will unconsciously digest their emotions by attacking their body organs.
as the saying goes, "all diseases are born of qi."
at present, more than 80% of the known diseases are psychogenic diseases, that is, emotional disorders.
there was a crazy message on the Internet: accompany his son to do his homework until the fifth grade, and then he was hospitalized with a heart attack and made two stents.
this message resonates strongly with countless parents, and losing temper ranks first among all kinds of emotions that hurt the human body.
experts point out that if you lose your temper, six major organs of the body will be injured at the same time. In addition to causing myocardial infarction, it will also lead to gastric mucosal bleeding, endocrine disorders and breast hyperplasia, spots and other problems.
in a word, anger hurts the body, and the bigger the temper, the worse the health.
there is a saying in Cai Gentan: "those who are impetuous and careless accomplish nothing, and those who are calm and calm gather their own happiness."
A person with a bad temper can hardly make a big difference, while a person with a good temper has a long reward.
Zeng Guofan was quick-tempered and hot-tempered when he was young.
he satirized Emperor Xianfeng and went head-to-head with officials at all levels to harshly govern the army. As a result, there was almost a grudge with the whole officialdom, and everything went wrong.
after learning from the bitter experience, Zeng Guofan was like a different person: remonstrating skillfully to the emperor, smiling to his colleagues, and treating his subordinates with leniency and severity.
according to historical records, Zeng Guofan in the later period was "dignified and few words". What followed was his magnanimous official career, with seven changes and ten leaps in ten years.
people often say that first-class people are capable, but have no temper; average people, capable, have temper; inferior people, incompetent, bad temper. "
losing one's temper is a human instinct, but being able to control one's temper is the skill.
Master Huihai once said, "there is a business in the world that always loses money, and that is to lose temper."
temper is everyone's lifelong practice.
the higher the voice, the lower the self-cultivation.
the softer the voice, the thicker the virtue
as the saying goes, "reason is not louder."
when there is a disagreement, there are always some people who are used to arguing at the top of their voices, as long as the voice is loud enough, Li will be on his side.
I have read a short story.
Yan Hui, a student of Confucius, took to the street to do business and saw someone arguing in front of the cloth shop.
the cloth buyer shouted, "38 equals 23, why do you charge me 24?" As soon as Yan Hui listened, he hurriedly came forward and saluted and said, "38 equals 24, and you made a mistake."
the cloth buyer became even angrier, pointed to Yan Hui and roared, "how old are you?" Confucius is the only way to reason. If I'm wrong, lose my head! " Yan Hui also said unconvincingly, "if I am wrong, I will lose to your hat."
later, Confucius listened to the whole story and gently said, "38 is equal to 23." Yan Hui was puzzled, so he had to lose his hat to the cloth buyer.
Confucius said meaningfully, "if you lose, you only lose a hat; if he loses, it is a human life!" Which is the most important? "
the level of the voice does not determine the truth of the matter, but sets off the self-cultivation of the parties: attaching importance to the great righteousness and neglecting the trivial matters; taking into account the overall situation and neglecting the minor righteousness.
A strong person never needs to rely on volume or argument to win.
like Queen Fucha in the Strategy of extending the Jubilee, no matter to her servants or concubines, she is soft-spoken, gentle and calm, does not get angry and self-esteem, and wins everyone's respect.
on the contrary, the arrogant and domineering imperial concubine always has a loud voice and a strong voice. Although everyone gave in, they only dared to be angry but did not dare to speak up, and they were never popular.
there is a saying in Lu's Spring and Autumn: "know its wind by hearing its voice, its ambition by its wind, and its virtue by its will."
hear its voice, know its person, know its heart. Through the voice, you can have a general understanding of a person's character and character. The volume of
is the embodiment of one's self-cultivation.
some people are born with a loud voice, but when they communicate with others, they will lower their voices, while others, even in public, are loud and talkative.
the degree of tone is a reflection of one's virtue.
some people, no matter how much wind and rain they have experienced, are always moderate, while others jump up and down and roll around when something happens.
when you live in the world, even if you are bustling, you should calm down and listen to your own voice.
the more impatient the temper, the weaker the understanding
, the more stable the temper, the deeper the wisdom
Zeng Guofan said: "whenever something happens, you must be calm and slow. If you are in a hurry, you may make a mistake."
if something happens in a panic, a square inch of chaos will often be counterproductive.
during the Spring and Autumn period, Qi Jinggong especially relied on and valued Yan Ying.
once, Jinggong went out to play. Suddenly, the fast horse reported, "Yan Ying is critically ill. Please come back as soon as possible." King Gong was shocked and immediately returned to Beijing.
along the way, the carriage was speeding, but Jing Gong disliked being too slow and kept urging the coachman. Then he simply grabbed the reins and drove the horse himself.
after running for a while, the anxious Jing Gong still felt slow and finally jumped out of the carriage and ran on foot. After a while, I was so tired that I went back to the carriage.
in this way, he went on foot and got on the horse for four times. as a result, he returned to the capital one day later than expected, and Yanzi had passed away.
this is haste makes waste. The more anxious you are to do something, the worse it is to do it.
it is said in the New Edition of Zhaode: "the quiet pole of water makes the image clear, and the quiet pole of man leads to wisdom."
muddy water can reflect all things only through precipitation; so can people calm down before they can see the truth.
Socrates has a famous "three sieves" theory.
once, a student hurried over and said, "teacher, I will tell you something that will definitely surprise you."
Socrates heard him out and said, "anything you want to say must be filtered through three sieves."
the student was puzzled, and he continued, "the first one is true." Excuse me, are you telling the truth? "
the student shook his head: "I heard others say that."
"if it's not true, stop; if you're not sure, use the second sieve: check." Socrates continued, "are you saying this out of kindness or malice?"
the student bowed his head.
Socrates continued: "if you can withstand two layers of filtration, use the third sieve: judgment." You have to judge whether it is useful to say this. If not, then don't say it. "
students nod their heads if they understand.
the rumor ends with the wise. When a person is in a hurry, he is easy to lose his reason and become a person who contributes to the flames. Fundamentally, there is still a lack of "quiet" gas.
as the old saying goes, "A quiet mind is born."
the world is numerous and complicated. If you want to get rid of the fog, you must learn the wisdom of "stillness" in order to be stable, smooth, and happy.
if you are calm, you will have wisdom: stillness leads to wisdom, and wisdom leads to wisdom.
the voice is soft and the relationship is harmonious: if you speak gently, you will probably have good luck.
have a good temper and everything goes well: if you repair a good temper, you will be rewarded with a lifetime of good fortune.